Is evil the absence of love?

Question: Is evil the absence of love? What if I don’t love anyone? Not even myself but chose to love my addiction instead. It’s not always hatred no but it’s no love in life. Not any form of love both platonic and non-platonic.

No, I don’t believe evil is the absence of love. An evil person may choose to love evil, therefor love and evil must not be more or less of the same material. I would add, however, that a love of evil wouldn’t be a real love at all, but rather a lust. A person can have an immense attraction towards evil, a desire for it, and a desire to become closer to, and more connected with, evil.

The absence of love is apathy. Since (agape) love may be defined as a selfless giving of one’s self to another, the absence of this would be apathy, to not even care enough to consider it one way or another.

So what is the question? You asked if you chose not even to love yourself but your own addiction instead. You cannot love your addiction more than yourself. Your addiction is FOR yourself. It benefitted you in some way, at some point in time, before you began to recognize it as an addiction. It met a need. Perhaps it was immediate pleasure. Perhaps it took away pain. Perhaps it connected you with others. No matter what it was, it was for you. You did it to either feel something good or to escape something bad.

So, what’s the deeper question? What if you don’t love anyone, or even yourself? You should search your heart and ask the questions that it would take to know what you’re actually yearning for. Here’s a few questions you might ask, but keep asking more.

1. Do you just NOT HAVE anyone to love? It can feel difficult to find someone to be in love with, but it’s not hard to find someone to love. All over the world are people who feel unloved, that are craving for love. You should choose to act loving towards someone. Make the choice to love. It could be a person or even a pet.
2. Do you have people in your life to love, that you should love, but you just don’t feel like you love them? Love is a verb. It is an action. Love the feeling comes and goes, but love the action is a choice. If you make the decision to act in a loving way towards others you will undoubtedly multiply your opportunities to experience giving and receiving love from a variety of people.
3. Do you not love at all? Do you feel a wide range of other emotions? You could have Schizoid Personality Disorder. It is characterized by a long-standing pattern of detachment from social relationships. A person with schizoid personality disorder often has difficulty expression emotions and does so typically in very restricted range, especially when communicating with others.

Seek professional help if the latter. Either way, choose to love. Act lovingly towards others. You might not feel love, but you can do love. You can be love to someone. It could even be a stranger, or a pet. Do a good deed for a stranger, just because, and expect nothing in return. That’s love. So when you think back and ask “What if I don’t love anyone?” Remind yourself: Nevermind, I just loved THAT person.